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The Real Value of Learning To Obey
God knew what he was doing when he gave the instruction to children to
“obey your parents.”
He knew that learning obedience when you’re young pays off greatly as you get older.
Children need to learn to obey, but not merely to make their parents’ lives easier. They learn obedience because it builds good character. Obedience isn’t just about getting tasks done. We teach obedience because hidden within this character quality are a number of principles that will help children to be successful in life.
When kids learn obedience, they learn to consider the needs of others. They learn to be a little less selfish. They learn to fit into the agenda of those around them. They learn to submit to authority. Children who learn to obey their parents are better prepared to obey God as they grow older.
Obedience involves learning to do what you’re told even when you think you have a better way or you’d rather do something else. The person who has learned obedience knows how to listen to an instruction, how to follow through without being watched, and how to report back when the job is done.
We’re not talking about blind obedience. We want our children to learn to evaluate instructions; but evaluating instructions is an advanced skill. First children must learn cooperation; otherwise they end up believing that every time they don’t like a request, they’re justified to resist it. These children remain selfish and grow up to be whiners and complainers, not able to receive instructions without an argument.
The children who learn obedience when they’re young will make better students and better employees when they get older. Furthermore, they will be happier and enjoy life more.
We believe there are a few Preschool Survival Skills every preschool age child needs to be working on in order to develop self control and responsiveness to authority. We suggest parents teach obedience with the “Come When You’re Called” Rule game. Learn more games to teach character to preschoolers in the Preschool Explorers book.
The Christian Parenting Handbook
Learn more heart-based ideas for any age child in The Christian Parenting Handbook. This reference book contains 50 wise tips and strategies every parent needs!
The Christian Parenting Handbook by Dr Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN. offers 50 Heart-Based Strategies for All the Stages of Your Child’s Life. In each of 50 short chapters you’ll find practical ideas and new ways of addressing the issues your family struggles with. Be inspired and encouraged with the turn of each page. The Companion Guide takes the 50 ideas into your own heart first with 5-minute audio tips, additional scripture, suggested prayers, and the opportunity to write down your action step. These two books work hand in hand to help you use heart-based strategies in your home.
About the National Center for Biblical Parenting
The National Center for Biblical Parenting was birthed in the early 90s in the hearts of Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN. Their families worked together in church ministry but it because clear that they had a powerful message that reached the hearts of families. Although they had no idea how big the ministry would develop, they knew that their heart-based, practical, biblical approach was strategic for helping Christian familes reach their full potential.
Now with over 120 trained presenters, three video training programs for churches, and authoring twelve books on parenting, Dr. Turansky and Mrs. Miller lead a powerful ministry for churches and for individual families.
Click here to learn more about WHAT WE BELIEVE. There you will find four significant documents. Please feel free to download the THEOLOGY of FAMILY section and use it in your home or ministry.
Please watch this two-minute video from co-founders, Dr. Scott Turansky and Joanne Miller, RN, BSN.